Helping Yourself

What To Do

What’s the best way of helping yourself?  I don’t know.  I do, know, though, that stepping back from your life and examining it is usually the best way to begin.

One way to do that is to write out answers to all the following questions as if you were going to submit those answers to a consulting philosopher.  The following day, examine those answers as if someone else had submitted them to you.  What suggestions might you have for that person?

1. What is your name?

2. What is your age?

3. Do you have any medical conditions that require regular care or medication (including pregnancy, current infections, high blood pressure, or chronic headaches)?  If so,  state the condition and the medication.  When was your last thorough physical examination?

4. Are you in psychotherapy?

5. Have you ever been in psychotherapy?  If so, when was it?  How long did it last?  What was the reason for it?  What was the outcome?

6. Have you ever been hospitalized for serious emotional problems?  If so, when was it?  How long did it last?  What was the reason for it?  What was the outcome?

7. Have you had any serious psychological problems or crises for which you were not treated?  If so, give the details.

8. Have you ever attempted to take your own life?

9. Have you recently been having suicidal thoughts?

10. What is the chief problem or frustration you are experiencing?  [See the Self Assessment page under the Resources tab.]

11. What, specifically, is the outcome you want?

12. By what date do you want that outcome?

13. Have you been in any other counseling or consulting for this problem?  If so, answer “yes” and proceed to the next question.  If not, answer “no” and skip to question 17.

14. What was the name and relationship (or credentials) of the person with whom you consulted?  (If there were more than one, list them all.)

15. What was the outcome of the previous consultation?  (If there were more than one, list them all.)

16. If the outcome was not as good as you wanted, can you suggest reasons why it was not?

17. What is the first thing you would like a good consulting philosopher to do for you?

18. How long do you think that might take?

19. Are there any other outcomes you would like?  If so, how long do you think they might take?

20. How much money are you prepared to commit to the solution of this problem?  Do you have the money available immediately?  If not, by when will you have it?

21. Are you willing to commit for at least 6 months towards solving this problem?  [There are likely new skills to be learned and integrated.]

27. What obstacles do you think might impede you from achieving the solution?

28. What is your primary learning style?  [See the Learning Style page under the Resources tab.]

(If you do hire someone such as a coach to help and provide your answers to these questions to that person, that’s likely to be very helpful.)